BIANCA FERNANDEZ

Why Moms Struggle to Ask for More: My Journey to Overcoming the Fear of Being \"Greedy\"

Have you ever felt selfish or "too much" for simply asking for what you deserve?

As a mother, I thought it was noble to give endlessly and ask for nothing in return. But if I’m being honest, deep down, I was scared - scared of being judged, scared of being labeled greedy, and scared of what might happen if I dared to expect more.

That fear kept me small for a long time. I avoided asking for more money, more support, or even more time for myself, because I didn’t want to rock the boat. I didn’t want people to think I was full of myself. I didn’t want to look arrogant. I didn’t want to lose anyone.

But something changed - and that shift has not only helped me grow my income significantly, it’s changed how I value myself in every part of my life.

The Hidden Fear Moms Don’t Talk About

Mothers are conditioned to be givers. We give love, time, energy, meals, rides, emotional support, our sanity...the list goes on. And while generosity is beautiful, it often becomes one-sided. Somewhere along the line, many of us stop asking for what we need, let alone what we want.

Here's what I realized:

I was terrified of being seen as greedy or selfish.
I thought asking for more meant I didn’t appreciate what I already had.
I was embarrassed by the idea of valuing myself more than others valued me.
I feared rejection, judgment, and even abandonment.

And yet... I was resentful. Exhausted. Quietly angry.

Because deep down, I knew I deserved more. I just didn’t think I was allowed to want it.

The Turning Point: Discovering My Money Block

Everything began to shift when I joined the Magnificent Money Academy, run by Jody Shield and her amazing team of coaches. I wasn’t sure what I was looking for, but I knew I needed something to change.

Then I hit a huge realization:

I was afraid of money because I was afraid of what people would think if I wanted more of it.

They helped me see how deeply I had internalized the belief that ambition was arrogance, and desire was greed. I thought wanting more meant taking from someone else, instead of expanding what was possible for me and others.

What Happened After That Awareness?

So. Much. Shifted.

I started asking for more money confidently...and actually received it.
I stopped over-explaining my prices or downplaying my worth.
I unapologetically owned my value (without fear or shame).
I cleared the guilt around receiving.
And most of all, I gave myself permission to want again.

This wasn’t just about income. It was a full internal realignment, and the Magnificent Money Academy walked me through it block by block, belief by belief.

And honestly? Not being able to ask for more is just one of the eight life changing blocks they help you unravel.

Why This Work Is Essential for Moms

This isn’t just about money.

This is about all the things we don’t ask for:

Help
Rest
Credit
A raise
Respect
Time alone
A weekend off
A chance to chase our dreams

We’ve been so conditioned to put everyone else first, that we often forget our own needs even exist. And when we do remember, we feel guilty for speaking up.

But here’s the truth: Asking for more doesn’t take away from others - it creates more for everyone.

What Asking for More Really Means

When I finally started asking, it wasn’t about being pushy or entitled.

It was about clarity.

I became clear on:

What I needed
Why I was asking
What I bring to the table
How I wanted to feel

And this clarity poured into every part of my life: relationships, motherhood, business. I began modeling to my kids what it looks like to value yourself and honor your desires.

If You’re a Mom Who’s Scared to Ask…

Please know this: you’re not alone. So many of us are walking around with this invisible fear. It’s heavy. But it’s also not permanent.

This fear? It’s just a belief.

It’s not your truth.

It’s a story you inherited. And like all stories, it can be rewritten.

If this resonates with you, I highly recommend checking out the Magnificent Money Academy. This program changed how I see myself and how I move through the world.

Final Thoughts (But Definitely Not the End)

Releasing this fear didn’t make me arrogant.

It made me free.

It made me generous from a place of fullness.

And friend, you deserve that freedom too.

So ask. Ask boldly. Ask with clarity. Ask as if your future depends on it...because it absolutely does.

FAQs

Q: Is the Magnificent Money Academy only about money?
Nope! It’s so much deeper than that. The program explores 8 major money blocks and these are the doorway to a much bigger transformation. There are so many other jam packed bonuses such as the Debt Release Program, Millionaire Activation, Meditations and so much more.

Q: Do I need to have a business to join?
Not at all. This work is for any woman who wants to stop playing small and start receiving more—whether in motherhood, career, relationships, or simply her own self-worth.

Q: What if I’m nervous about spending money on a program like this?
Totally valid! I was too. But the truth is: that fear is often the exact reason why you need it. The transformation starts when you say “yes” to yourself.